Living the Dream

Living the Dream

Everyone has dreams, the pictures of possibilities that aren’t yet realized. Dreams call us to look up from the ground toward the horizon, or even toward the stars. They offer images of possibilities that make life better. They are far away, and require steps of...

A Better Goodbye

A Better Goodbye

In English when we tell someone, “goodbye,” it can mean much or almost nothing. If we are referring to something final with our goodbye, we have to use more words to communicate finality, or more words to wish great things for the other’s good as we depart. Or goodbye...

Trees

Trees

When my sons were little, we planted a slim stick of a poplar tree beside our driveway. We must have planted it during the exact sign of the moon in Farmer’s Almanac, or something like that. The poplar grew very fast, from no more than a stick 18 inches tall to four...

Freedom

Freedom

You and I at root are emotional and spiritual creatures, created to live fully. We do so by living fully in relationship with our selves, others, and God. This realty is our pre-design. The research of the past two decades in neuroscience re-confirms this reality,...

Re-membering

Re-membering

Every year at my elementary school we had a spaghetti supper, followed by games set up at booths in the gymnasium. All of us kids had a ball. It was a fundraiser, which I didn’t really even think about. I just wanted to buy tickets to do the contests in order to win...

What is Maturity?

What is Maturity?

As an external description, maturity is the process of reaching full natural growth or development, or something having reached the limit of its time. As an internal description, maturity is the capability of living fully life on life’s terms, emotionally and...

Sadness and Honor

Sadness and Honor

Sadness honors the loss that comes with change. In a world where change and loss are inevitable, the willingness to have sadness allows us to remain fully alive. Put another way, sadness is part of feeling and healing loss that allows us to risk caring and attaching...

The Words of Others

The Words of Others

I won’t go into all of the details, but I was working towards a major life decision years ago. I had a deep desire to return to my hometown and work from the place my heart could not stop desiring. I did make the move. Years have passed since we moved from my work in...

The Value of Acceptance

The Value of Acceptance

In short, acceptance is the courage to keep on living and loving in the face of inevitable loss. It can be faked through resignation, which means to “resign” from being bothered, hurt, disturbed, caring, or attached with one’s heart. Resignation is the act of...