Sadness and Honor

Sadness and Honor

Sadness honors the loss that comes with change. In a world where change and loss are inevitable, the willingness to have sadness allows us to remain fully alive. Put another way, sadness is part of feeling and healing loss that allows us to risk caring and attaching...
The Value of Acceptance

The Value of Acceptance

In short, acceptance is the courage to keep on living and loving in the face of inevitable loss. It can be faked through resignation, which means to “resign” from being bothered, hurt, disturbed, caring, or attached with one’s heart. Resignation is the act of...
Gladness and Pain

Gladness and Pain

Gladness comes to us as an outcome of being adept at the other seven feelings we carry inside of us. The other seven feelings are fear, hurt, sadness, loneliness, anger, shame, and guilt (The Voice of the Heart). Our feelings allow us to respond to life on life’s...
Core Expressions of Healthy Shame

Core Expressions of Healthy Shame

Healthy shame is the beginning of humility and risk-taking. When we awaken to how alike we are in heart and how we all carry the same inborn neediness, the healthy shame of being human awakens the following: I need you and you need me. I make mistakes and you do, too....
The Benefit of Guilt

The Benefit of Guilt

Guilt grows out of healthy shame, and healthy shame allows me to acknowledge neediness, experience humility, identify limitations, admit mistakes, weep in sadness, wish for better, and grow in empathy and conscience as a human being. Here is how healthy shame and...